Comments on: How To Be A Really, Really, Really Good Listener

By: Listen to connect

Listen to connect — Sun, 13 Dec 2015 12:41:02 +0000

[…] How To Be A Really, Really, Really Good Listener […]

By: shifrachester@gmail.com

shifrachester@gmail.com — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:35:09 +0000

So glad you enjoyed the post, Janet. I am sure you are a very good listener. Heck, we all need to improve. But something tells me you are far better than most.

By: shifrachester@gmail.com

shifrachester@gmail.com — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:34:30 +0000

Exactly, Haralee. I know you are a good listener because you truly listen to what I'm saying. Every word. You've been "there" for me long distance, and I am here for you as well. Good listeners unite! xo

By: Haralee

Haralee — Mon, 28 Sep 2015 12:18:17 +0000

Such good advice! There is nothing more frustrating then when you say something you think is sharing with a friend and the conversation changes without any recognition or acknowledgement to what you just said!

By: janet tancredi

janet tancredi — Sat, 26 Sep 2015 17:33:50 +0000

Wow, this really hit home! I do consider myself a very empathetic, caring, and sensitive person. However, I need to improve my listening skills. I may think I'm listening, but not enough! Though, my daughter is part of our new technology age, she too finds it bringing impersonalization to our world. We all just need to "stop and smell the flowers." We all have our flaws, but it is important to recogniize them and try to improve upon them!

By: shifrachester@gmail.com

shifrachester@gmail.com — Sat, 26 Sep 2015 07:53:49 +0000

Every time you leave a comment for me - actually everything you do - touches and warms my heart. Although we live far from one another you touch my soul in ways that matter most. Thank you for your kind and loving words. I love you to pieces right back. You are a great Mom2 for all these years. A perfect mentor and friend. Love you.

By: BCarolyn Prince

BCarolyn Prince — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 21:49:09 +0000

Dear Kathy.....I often read the responses others write reflecting on what you have just written. What speaks to me is how true you are to yourself and your feelings and what a gift you have to be able to put it into words. Thank you for blessing me since I have known you. I truly share your frustration when the place you have called home for so many years has to be marketed for others who have no way to know all the love that has filled every nook and cranny . Stay strong. Love you to pieces! Mom

By: Donna

Donna — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 13:55:01 +0000

Being a good listener is possibly the most gracious thing a person can do, it shows respect and empathy. I remind myself often to listen....just listen. Those folks I enjoy the most are the ones who ask how my children are and then stop to listen. I found when we were experiencing financial hardships some friends retreated as though they felt it was "catching". Folks think finances can be controlled and if you have problems it is your own problem. And as for your other friend...yikes! She should know how you feel about your home. I have seen pictures of your home and it is beautiful. The right family will arrive to love your home as much as you have. In the mean time enjoy it...thank you for this reminder to listen.

By: Sharon Greenthal

Sharon Greenthal — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 10:32:17 +0000

I have people in my life who simply don't understand the art of conversation, or the skill of letting someone have their moment. It's very frustrating.

By: Jodie filogomo

Jodie filogomo — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:56:55 +0000

So true, so true that listening is oh, so important! Everyone wants their story heard and a good friend (or smart person) figures out when to listen, when to try to help and when to share theirs!! Your "friends" may need a swift kick in the...(ooops, did I really say that)! Maybe they don't engage because they can't relate, but I don't understand it either since anyone can asks questions. (I, too, know somebody very close to me that is like this). jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

By: Janice Wald

Janice Wald — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:52:32 +0000

Hi Cathy,
I am actually still working on being "the wall" so my daughters don't feel I judge them. I try counting to five before speaking.
Janice

By: Terri Jackson

Terri Jackson — Fri, 25 Sep 2015 09:48:57 +0000

Such good insights on how to be a good listener. I especially like repeating back to the other person their thoughts to make sure that I heard and interpreted them correctly. My husband and I had to practice that when we were first married - 34 years ago. We were not good listeners at all. So we would repeat back what the other would one say, so often we had not listened at all. It took a lot of practice to really hear the words spoken. Wishing you a peace filled weekend.