A decade ago, I wrote a blog post about the dark clouds of depression. It was an important post written soon after the death of the brilliant and wildly gifted Robin Williams.

Although we didn't know it then, or at least I didn't, Williams faced a tough health challenge. So, of course, the media went into a frenzy, talking about Williams's suicide and the state of his mental health. They were wrong to give themselves the power to never walk in his shoes yet offer opinions about him anyway.

What gives anyone the right to judge someone else? As we know, with MS, walking in someone's shoes is essential before making snap judgments.

If you can't empathize with someone, move on instead of passing judgment.

Rest well, Robin

Living with MS or any illness requires prioritizing your mental and physical health to avoid psychological distress and mental health issues. Your health should be your top priority. Start by discussing your feelings with someone you trust, especially if you're newly diagnosed. Take advantage of the available help and resources. (Check MS Resources at the top of this page for a list of MS  Advocacy Resources.)

Find a trusted friend, family member, religious counselor, or licensed therapist. There's no shame in taking care of yourself first.

Seeing a psychologist was the best decision I ever made. I worked on addressing all of the anxiety, stress, and negative thoughts I was experiencing by learning how to utilize cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness. The world seemed dark at the time, but with hard work and determination, things began to look brighter. It's not a permanent fix, but now I know how to help myself and reach out to others whenever needed.

Growing up, I avoided confrontations by hiding my feelings and disappointments to keep the peace with others. I prioritized their needs over my own. I was a people-pleaser. Today, we know the dangers and how deeply our wounds can fester when we suppress our emotions. These wounds are profound and enduring.

When I got married, my husband and I made a pact always to be honest and open, even when it was hard. We continue to do this to this day, and our marriage has stayed strong.

I paid a heavy emotional price by staying quiet all those years ago. Now, I'm putting negative emotions where they belong through meditation, walks in nature, reading, writing, and art therapy.

In times of great crises, we need to feel safe and loved. The desire to feel heard enables us to reach out and communicate with others about what we're going through. Then, perhaps, one bad moment in somebody's life will hopefully lead to a better one, one day at a time.

I'm not a medical professional or trained in suicide prevention. But I care deeply about you.

Please seek help if you're struggling with your mental health. You are always important, loved, and needed. You always matter!

September is National Suicide Prevention Month, and the National Institutes of Mental Health are offering digital shareables on suicide prevention. This is a great place to start if you or someone you know needs help.

"People can call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org for themselves or if they are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support. No matter where you live in the United States, you can reach a trained crisis counselor who can help."  https://go.nih.gov/hoMF6tt  #shareNIMH

Suicide is complicated and tragic, but it is often preventable. Knowing the warning signs for suicide and how to get help can help save lives. Learn about behaviors that may be a sign that someone is thinking about suicide. For more information, visit https://go.nih.gov/cw9p2vx  #shareNIMH